Fat Man destroyed his sex drive and lost his wife by eating too much SOY

I recently bumped into an old friend who I hadn’t seen for several years.   He had been out of the IT industry for a while, had quit drinking and become a vegetarian so there was very little reason for me to keep in touch with him.     He was visiting my town for the day and rang to catch up for a coffee.   He did not sound his usual self and hinted that he had been having “issues” in his relationship with his wife.

Because of the sensitive nature of this story we will call him “Mike”.


One of the first things that struck me was that there were two quite large “lumps” that were clearly visible, protruding through his black mesh T-shirt.    It actually looked like he was in possession of a pair of women’s breasts and quite serious ones at that.   I would have guessed he would have needed at least a B-Cup bra to contain those boys, maybe even a C-cup. 

We ordered our coffees and I noticed that he specified soy milk in his latte.   As we continued our conversation he confided in me that his marriage had ended.   He had been working quite hard, his libido had evaporated and his wife had then got involved with a more virile man at her place of work.    I tried to show some empathy but was finding it damn hard to keep my eyes off the “rack” that this chap was flashing about, as were the staff and other patrons of the café.

Over his coffee, “Mike” told me the sorry tale of what had happened to him since his change of lifestyle. It seems that he had embraced the vegetarian lifestyle full on. He had stopped eating all meats, adopted a full-on vegan lifestyle and taken up long distance running. He had also been advised by a friend to ramp up his intake of Soy products. He was chowing down on tofu, using soy oil like it was going out of fashion, and replacing all dairy milk products with soy milk.

The results of this radical change to his diet had been slow but sure. He admitted that he was getting very concerned about the development of a bust and confided to me that he was attracting more attention than he wanted when reporting to his place of work which was situated in Old Compton Street in the West End of London. As luck would have it, that part of town was no stranger to young men developing busts, but usually that was a life choice on their part and was assisted by hormone treatment accompanied by an appropriate choice of female clothing to enhance their new body shape.

“Mike” was now on the verge of seeking medical help for these health issues that were now plaguing his life.   He had even considered suicide.

Up to this stage I had been biting my tongue trying not to mention my career change into the world of nutrition and diet.

But I couldn’t hold back any longer so it was time to let him have it with “both barrels” about the soy scam.

First of all I referred him to an article by www.livestrong.com that spelled out in simple terms the best way for a man to lower his libido.   That article lists the following steps for a man to achieve a low libido.   Way up in the list were the following:

  • Eat soy products
  • Eat a low fat diet
  • Reduce the intake of animal protein
  • Take up an endurance sport like long distance cycling or running

Mike was almost following these steps as if it was a script.

Then I shifted the conversation onto the main event, Soy products.   I directed “Mike” to an article by www.menshealth.com about the negative effects of Soy on men’s health.

The article (referenced below) told the sorry story of James Price a retired U.S. Army intelligence officer who once flew attack helicopters in Vietnam but had now developed breasts.   “It was like my body was feminizing” he said during an interview.


This unfortunate Texan had seen his beard growth slow,  he’d lost hair from his arms, chest, and legs, and he’d stopped waking up with morning erections.

His sexual desire disappeared and his penis atrophied to the point where it was so flaccid that it looked very small in comparison with the way it used to be.   Even his emotions changed. He stopped engaging in sexual activity with his wife and this lead to her becoming frustrated and angry. Eventually she started to have her sexual needs met in the beds of more masculine men.



As I recounted this sorry tale, I could see “Mike” nodding in agreement and a look of recognition was clearly visible on his face.   The story was striking a chord with his own problems.

The unfortunate Texan had gone to doctors and eventually the problem was narrowed down to his intake of soy milk.  It turned out that he had been drinking gallons of the stuff.

By this stage I noticed that “Mike” had pushed his Soy laced coffee to one side of the table as if it was a cup full of arsenic.   He looked like he was now shocked and disgusted.

“My ex-wife was shoving tofu into nearly every meal we had!”   he said.   “and we were cooking everything in Soy Oil.      No wonder these bad things have been happening to me.”     “Mike” looked angry.   I suspect that if his ex-wife had walked into the café at that moment he would have not been responsible for his actions.

It was time to go.    “Mike” had a trsin to catch.  He already looked a new man (if you didn’t look too closely at his chest).    He now had an answer to his problems.

Before he left, I got him to store a link to a scientific article on Hypogonadism and erectile dysfunction associated with soy product consumption.    I advised him to read that article and maybe even print it out so that he could shove it in the face of the next partner who tried to force the vegetarian lifestyle and soy products onto him.

I feel pretty sure that he will follow my advice and the next time I see him, he will be back to looking like a man, eating meat, drinking his coffee black or with dairy milk and who knows, he may even have a new lady in his life.

After he had left I reflected on the Soy scam.    How have we all been conned?   One of the problems is that people will point to China and Japan and say why is it that billions of people in Asia eat soy and they don’t have these problems?     My response to them is how much soy are they actually eating over there?      Are they eating soy instead of eating meat, fish and poultry?    Or are they eating it as a condiment to put on top of their food?

The Asians have known for centuries that Soy can be used to reduce sexual desire in monks who have taken oaths of celibacy.


Eastern monks used to use Soy as a method of reducing their libido so that they could remain celibate.

You cant tell me that a billion people in Asia are having the sort of issues described in this scientific paper:



Previous research has focused on the beneficial effects of soy and its active ingredients, isoflavones. For instance, soy consumption has been associated with lower cardiovascular and breast cancer risks. However, the number of reports demonstrating adverse effects of isoflavones due to their estrogenlike properties has increased. We present the case of a 19-y-old type 1 diabetic but otherwise healthy man with sudden onset of loss of libido and erectile dysfunction after the ingestion of large quantities of soy-based products in a vegan-style diet. Blood levels of free and total testosterone and dehydroepiandrosterone (DHEA) were taken at the initial presentation for examination and continuously monitored up to 2 y after discontinuation of the vegan diet. Blood concentrations of free and total testosterone were initially decreased, whereas DHEA was increased. These parameters normalized within 1 y after cessation of the vegan diet. Normalization of testosterone and DHEA levels was paralleled by a constant improvement of symptoms; full sexual function was regained 1 y after cessation of the vegan diet. This case indicates that soy product consumption is related to hypogonadism and erectile dysfunction. To the best of our knowledge, this is the first report of a combination of decreased free testosterone and increased DHEA blood concentrations after consuming a soy-rich diet. Hence, this case emphasizes the impact of isoflavones in the regulation of sex hormones and associated physical alterations.

Whenever I want the final word on a topic of interest, I tend to find myself checking out what Dr Mercola has to say.

Soy Myths Exposed: The Dangers of Soy

Internationally renowned natural health physician Dr. Joseph Mercola reveals the dangers and side effects of soy based foods and why you should avoid soy infant formulas.

Is the Soy Myth Harming Your Health?

You may have heard that the consumption of soy dates back thousands of years and has been cherished for its health promoting benefits ever since. If you believe this, you’re not alone. The introduction of soy as a health food in the West has been one of the most successful myth-making campaigns in the food industry.

Unfortunately, it’s only half-true at best, and dangerously misleading at worst.

Soy was first used as a food during the late Chou dynasty (1134-246 BC), after the Chinese learned to ferment soybeans to make foods like tempeh, natto and tamari. The key factoid here is that these foods are fermented, which alters the composition of the soybean and makes it suitable for consumption. Alas, this all-important fact has been conveniently swept under the rug, and many now claim unfermented soy has the same health benefits of fermented soy.

Nothing could be further from the truth…

Another common misconception is that Asians consume large amounts of soy foods.

But again, the facts have been twisted for profits. According to the Weston A. Price Foundation, the average consumption of soy foods in Japan and China is about 10 grams (2 teaspoons) per day, and it’s used primarily as a condiment, NOT as a replacement for animal-based protein and dairy. And again, we’re talking about fermented soy. Modern non-fermented soy products simply do NOT confer the same health benefits as traditionally fermented soy foods.

Asians use soy after it has been fermented, which alters the composition of the soybean and makes it suitable for consumption

Asians use soy after it has been fermented, which alters the composition of the soybean and makes it suitable for consumption

“The average consumption of soy foods in Japan and China is about 10 grams (2 teaspoons) per day, and it’s used primarily as a condiment, NOT as a replacement for animal-based protein and dairy”  Doctor Mercola

So take my advice,  go easy on the Soy, don’t let what happened to “Tony” happen to you.  Don’t let someone tell you that you “Think you’re a man, but you’re only a boy, you think you’re a man but you ate too much soy”.

Dangers of Soy – Explaining Why Soy is Bad


The Whole Truth About Soy – Kaayla T. Daniel

SOY is NOT a Health Food!!!














  1. Muchas gracias Hans! You are a legend.

    I really hope Mike follows your advice and gets his life back on track.

    I had a “friend” who had the same problem as Mike. Giant tits and a tiny limp penis due to eating too much soy (and I have to admit, probably drinking too much real ale at sleazy pubs around the West end of London.)

    Since following your advice he has recovered his manly physique and his mojo. His marriage is finished, but he is back in the dating game, and the only boobs in his life now are attached to the hotties who he meets at his local gym.

    Well done Hans,
    Definitely the best diet advice site on the web.

  2. Hans,
    This article that you wrote answers a lot of the doubts that have been causing me sleepless night lately.

    My wife has been showing less interest in me and I suspected her of having an affair. She works as a nurse and has access to lots of sex starved doctors so it would be easy for her to get her leg over without me knowing it.

    I grew a goatee beard to try to impress her, but it looks pretty weird with it being a strange mixture of ginger and grey and my work mates laughed at me so I shaved it off.

    Who knew that most of my problems were because I have been eating too much soy?

    I am going to follow all of your directions and advice to the letter from now on.

    As my black friends here in London would say “You da man!”

    Tony “Man Boobs”

  3. Dear Hans,

    Thank you for this article. I found it thought provoking and stimulating.

    I have recently noticed that my shirt is getting quite tight and my upper body is developing the embarrassing appearance of “man boobs”. I thought it was because of all the beer I drink, but you have given me something to think about.

    My wife is a vegetarian and I have recently stopped eating meat and started eating all of the weird vegetarian stuff that she eats which includes lots of soy materials.

    That is now going to end.

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